I was relaxing and enjoying my cup of coffee and watching this little bundle of new-born joy, love and pure energy and Mum instinctively knowing what that little cherub wants, even before the baby cries out. This beautiful picture was smashed by an angry troubled teen shouting, swearing and arguing with his Mum and she was giving it back in equal ferocity,and I thought what on earth went wrong.
That was 11 years ago and I now have the answer – life kicks in. Before they go to school they are pure fun; creative, imaginative and laughing all the time, then they have to become someone else, someone they are not. Then more changes; of school, puberty, work and the opposite sex…
How can you prepare that beautiful bundle of pure potential to manage in this ever-changing World? Or how can you communicate and connect at a deeper level with that angry troubled teen?
2002 was the year that changed my life. I discovered the power of life coaching and identified my passion – to unleash the potential in young people. Because of my interest in alternative therapy I believed there was a deeper level of communication beyond what is conventionally described by sensory-awareness and active listening. I’ve used the phrase ‘energetic connection’. This energetic connection can have profound implications for our personal relationships.
- Have you noticed?
- When you enter a room full of strangers you can feel comfortable or uncomfortable?
- Someone saying, “I was just thinking of that” or you have said it yourself?
- If the phone rings and it’s someone you haven’t seen or heard of for sometime, but you’ve been thinking about them?
- You can sense someone behind you without hearing them?
Then you have experienced that ‘energy’ and it’s always there for you to access. This energy has a huge impact on the quality of a connection between two people and the parents we have worked with have noticed that children are so much more sensitive. And when they are ‘labeled’ ADHA, autistic, learning difficulties they are infinitely more so.
The possibility of a deeper connection is always there for us to access, if you choose to become congruent and comfortable in yourself.
Most parents know when they are happy their children are happy but what very few know is that their children, being sensitive to a parents emotional state, also take responsibility for that emotional state. Children don’t have the confidence or the communication and emotional abilities to express their concern, so they kick off in the only way they know how to get attention. That might be screaming, hitting out or storming out of the room shouting “you don’t understand me” as they slam the door.
You have the power to change things if you choose!
