Since I did the Empowering Families (now the Parent Champion) course in 2008 I’ve had my ups and downs. In May 2009 I had my son K and I had a very traumatic birth, I nearly died and lost between 2–3 litres of blood. After I was discharged from hospital I was in a very bad place emotionally and mentally, I couldn’t bond with my son at all and when I looked at him I felt no love for him, which made me very sad.
So the doctor put me on antidepressants, at this point I thought to myself I cant keep felling like this. I went back to the book that Alan wrote and the work we did on the course. It made me realize that what had happened during my birth with my son wasn’t his fault. If anything it was just an act of nature and the way I was feeling was making it hard for me to bond with him.
As soon as I had come to terms with what had happened I started to bond with him. I kept working towards getting myself emotionally better for me and my children, with the help of Alan’s book and remembering how I felt during the course I manage to do it.
Even to this day I do the work sheets out of the book, if I find I have lost my way a bit it helps me get back on track. I’ve set myself goals in life now and I’ve fulfilled everyone that I have set so far. Currently I’m a full time mum and help to run a community group called ‘parents is the word’ we do fundraising for charity’s and help out in the community. I’m also planning on doing a on-line course in Equality and Diversity.
My future is my own and whatever I want to do I know I can do it as long as I put my mind to it, I can reach the stars!!”
Mrs SJ, Parent, Kent
